tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10400844.post3364388328077103011..comments2023-11-05T01:35:35.796-08:00Comments on Confessions of a Christian: My ConfessionAmber Lynnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16720568154690740855noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10400844.post-35398948025215472752008-07-30T19:58:00.000-07:002008-07-30T19:58:00.000-07:00Amber,Sounds like trouble...I wish I could say tha...Amber,<BR/>Sounds like trouble...I wish I could say that I didn't understand but I do. I've been married now for almost 15 years; but the first 5 were REALLY rough (I got married when I was 23..young!). I experienced the first years of marriage as if I were a rug in the middle of a floor. When you live alone it's easy to vacuum around the rug, sweep crap underneath it, not wash it, spill junk on it...and then someone else moves in, moves the rug and sees all your sh#$@#. We all carry so much baggage into marriage don't we? <BR/><BR/>Interestingly enough, my husband and I had a conversation about this very thing a few weeks ago. I was saying that I didn't always feel like I was in the front of his mind or fill up his heart. I didn't see it in tangible ways. He took a while to answer, and he told me that he shows it in ways that I don't think about. Like when I asked him to build me raised vegetable garden boxes this year. He did that out of love-because he knew it was something that would make me happy, I thought he was doing it because it was another "chore" I asked him to do. It's amazing that after 15 years, we still have to work at communicating. I'll tell you what though, it's well worth the work. The short time that I left almost 10 years ago were the loneliest 3 weeks of my life. <BR/>If you need anything send me an email. If you have a minute, take a look at Jeremiah 29:11. Maybe it applies to your marriage...Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09232540079864305667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10400844.post-26188579794737646352008-07-30T19:57:00.000-07:002008-07-30T19:57:00.000-07:00Amber,Sounds like trouble...I wish I could say tha...Amber,<BR/>Sounds like trouble...I wish I could say that I didn't understand but I do. I've been married now for almost 15 years; but the first 5 were REALLY rough (I got married when I was 23..young!). I experienced the first years of marriage as if I were a rug in the middle of a floor. When you live alone it's easy to vacuum around the rug, sweep crap underneath it, not wash it, spill junk on it...and then someone else moves in, moves the rug and sees all your sh#$@#. We all carry so much baggage into marriage don't we? <BR/><BR/>Interestingly enough, my husband and I had a conversation about this very thing a few weeks ago. I was saying that I didn't always feel like I was in the front of his mind or fill up his heart. I didn't see it in tangible ways. He took a while to answer, and he told me that he shows it in ways that I don't think about. Like when I asked him to build me raised vegetable garden boxes this year. He did that out of love-because he knew it was something that would make me happy, I thought he was doing it because it was another "chore" I asked him to do. It's amazing that after 15 years, we still have to work at communicating. I'll tell you what though, it's well worth the work. The short time that I left almost 10 years ago were the loneliest 3 weeks of my life. <BR/>If you need anything send me an email. If you have a minute, take a look at Jeremiah 29:11. Maybe it applies to your marriage...Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09232540079864305667noreply@blogger.com